Instead, the narcissist emphasizes his virtues in the presence of others, just to try to convince himself that he is a valuable person and to try to stop feeling ashamed for his faults;  unfortunately such "people with unrealistically inflated self-views, which may be especially unstable and highly vulnerable to negative information, For those of us who are actively seeking higher self-esteem, one way is to be successful at what we do.
When we self-enhance too much, although we may feel good about it in the short term, in the longer term the outcomes for the self may not be positive.
Forming and maintaining satisfying relationships helps us to feel good about ourselves. High self-esteem is correlated with, but does not cause, a variety of positive outcomes. When we focus outwardly for approval, we are seeking it in the wrong place. Maintaining and Enhancing Self-Esteem As we saw in our earlier discussion of cultural differences in self-esteem, in at least some cultures, individuals appear motivated to report high self-esteem.
Bonet claims that this corresponds to Major depressive disorder. There is a need for constant positive feedback from others for these individuals to maintain their feelings of self-worth. There is also considerable personal diversity in the tendency to use self-enhancement.
Exercises and Critical Thinking In what ways do you attempt to boost your own self-esteem? Contingent self-esteem is derived from external sources, such as a what others say, b one's success or failure, c one's competence,  or d relationship-contingent self-esteem.